I was talking to one of my friends over the weekend. At one point, he said “…you know, having my wife is like having a great teammate. We got each other’s back.” I agree with his perspective: every healthy relationship requires all the essential elements a successful sport team has. It reminded me of the seven “C’s Janssen discussed in our text.
A healthy relationship starts with a common goal and both parties are fully committed in meeting that goal. It may be getting married and starting a family or moving overseas to start a new career together. Clear communication is another key point. Without open and honest communication, it is difficult to see how a relationship, a marriage, or a team function at its best and achieve a common goal.
Complementary roles is another important “C” in healthy relationships. Unlike sport teams where there are multiple people to fulfill different roles, there are only two people in a relationship. It is through compromise and collaboration (two terms we discussed in class) the relationship can stay strong and healthy.
Janssen defined cohesion as genuinely like and respecting each other. This is particularly true when it comes to relationships, as well. Both persons make the time and effort to spend quality time with each other and enjoy each other’s company.
The last “C” is credible coaching. I wouldn’t necessarily call it coaching in a relationship but, rather, helping each other by bringing in a different, fresh perspective to the situation. There is nothing better than talking and seeking advice from someone you love, respect, and trust; both in a relationship and on a team.
Jassen , J. (1999). Championship team building: What every coach needs to know to build a motivated, committed, & cohesive team. Tucson, AZ: Winning The Mental Game.